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3 Ways to Make Your Life Easier

Last week while filming No-Cook Camper Van Meals for Road Trips (The Joy of Not Cooking!), and I did two things that scared the bloopers out of me. 

Worse, I made my life much, much harder than it needed to be.

What scared me:

First, I went to the Thunder Bay Farmer’s Market and asked some of the vendors if I could interview them for my video. I wanted to share additional healthy food options and offer a local flair. That was really, really hard for me! I have no problem talking to the camera or sharing my life. I do, however, I have a huge block when it comes to asking people if they want to be in my video.

Second, I used two cameras to shoot the video. That wasn’t nearly as scary as approaching strangers at the market, but it wasn’t easy. Especially since I fell the night before and probably cracked a rib (I have osteoporosis and embarrassingly weak bones). I was in pain when I shot that video, but also full of acetaminophen and ibuprofen so it worked out okay. 

Since then I’ve realized three things that have already made my life easier. The third is one of the most important insights I’ve ever had.

3 Ways to Make Life Easier

1. Remember a time you did something new, difficult or scary.  It felt overwhelming, didn’t it? Maybe you felt vulnerable, anxious, terrified or even stupid. You had no idea what you were doing or how it would turn out, but you did it anyway. Bravo, angel! You took a risk and you stepped out in faith.

2. Give yourself a bouquet and a whole lotta love—over and over. Even if the thing didn’t turn out the way you hoped or planned, you tried. Celebrate, even if it was 25 years ago! I remember learning how to read in kindergarten and how to tie my shoes when I was even younger. I often bask in the glory of those achievements. They make me feel good and I like feeling good. Even better: when I feel good I exude goodness, joy and light. That makes other people feel good. It’s contagious.

3. Live like a dog or a toddler. Have you ever noticed how fully, completely present little kids and animals are? They aren’t burdened by thoughts and fears. They don’t care what people think, who is watching them, or what the response might be. They are so committed to experiencing this moment—all the smells, tastes, sights, touches, intuition, energy—that they have no time or headspace to create future problems or relive past terrors.

If I approached people at the farmer’s market like a dog or a toddler, I’d be a whole different person. I’d be curious, open-minded, sensitive, clear, joyful and loving. I’d let them respond any way they wish, and I wouldn’t be oppressed by my own thoughts and beliefs.  

Living with that kind of freedom, peace and joy wouldn’t just make my life easier and better, it’d make other people’s lives easier and better, too. Wouldn’t that be something? 

No-Cook Camper Van Meals for Road Trips

With a happy wag o’ the tail,


P.S. I’m in Sault Ste. Marie, Ontario—and it is one of the easiest places I have ever visited. Some cities are tough nuts to crack! The “Soo” is spacious, good-natured, happy and free. This morning I drove over the International Bridge to Sault Ste. Marie, Michigan (the U.S./Canada border runs through the St. Marys River), and I couldn’t wait to get back to Soo. She knows how to live the easy life.


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4 thoughts on “3 Ways to Make Your Life Easier”

  1. I found this site by accident. I was looking for a way to reconnect with my husband. I am still in love with him, He was very accomplished and humble and my cornerstone. He was suppose to come home. I feel disconnected and awkward. We moved to be at the beach. I am hours from family. Two weeks after his death our beloved Westie passed. I got another Westie. I named him after my husband but he is nothing like him. I still work which I go through the motions. It’s like an out of body experience. I walk on the beach and see happy people enjoying each other’s company. The young people holding hands. Our dreams no longer realized. I look for any sign or assurance that it’s not ended that we will hold each other and I will see his blue eyes and smiling face looking lovingly at me. He wrote poetry for me and published his book on golfing dedicated to me. I was and now I am not. When I dare reach out I will find a conch shell. I am looking for a reconnection a way to summon him. Is this some crazy phase or have I lost my way? I never talk about how I feel so I can be maintain the enigma of stability around family and friends.

  2. Hello:
    I am commenting on a post by Brenda. I can truly understand her feeling of pain and loss of her husband. I am going through the same thing. My husband (of 42 years), passed away in October 2021, after a long valiant battle against stage 4 stomach cancer, colon cancer and bowel blockage. He was 67 yrs. old. We both served in the United Sates Air Force and happened to get stationed at RAF Upper Heyford, England, 1977-1981, as this was where I met him. We were married in Bicester, England in 1979. One never knows how things in life will turn out, and I have many regrets of how I could have done things better or said the things I should have said more often. I think we all have experienced that at some point. But I truly know the hurt Brenda is feeling. As God says in the bible, a husband and wife become one flesh. Yes, the other half of me has gone to be with the Lord, and I can honestly say I feel like only half a person. It’s tough, but stay focused on the Lord as He knows perfectly well what we go through, and will get us through all the difficulties, no matter what. To all who are going through this same type situation, please don’t give up.

  3. Lost my wonderful, smart, funny, husband and best friend 11 months ago to a horrific extremely rare brain disease, CJD that is incurable.
    We had been together for 43 years, meeting in university. He died at the age of 66. Need I say more?

    1. I’m sorry you lost your husband, Brenda. That’s so sad – I can’t even imagine how difficult and different your life is now, without him. There aren’t any words that can make your grief easier or lighter. You were with him for so long…how do you live without him?

      With sympathy,