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  • Midlife Blossoms – Welcome Back!
    Do you remember signing up for my She Blossoms emails? If not, I don’t blame you! I haven’t sent anything since last fall. In my last email (Hibernating for the Winter), I shared that my whole life was uprooted—marriage, home, job, self-identity—and I needed to retreat and hibernate. Now that I’m settled and spring is… Read More »Midlife Blossoms – Welcome Back!
  • In Hibernation for the Winter
    Here’s what happens when you uproot everything and start fresh: you move into a new stage of life that requires more time, energy and focus. In Stretching Yourself I described how it felt to apply for a job I thought was beyond my reach. Now—a month later—I am so grateful I took the risk! It’s the best… Read More »In Hibernation for the Winter
  • The Regret Monster
    Even when you’re 99% sure a difficult decision is right—such as separating from your spouse, uprooting your whole life or starting a new job—you’re bound to meet the Regret Monster. I recently did those three things. Left my husband, moved to a new city and found a job. Before I started working, though, I found myself in… Read More »The Regret Monster
  • Waiting for the Right Fit
    Because I thought I’d still be waiting to hear if I got a new job (Stretching Yourself), I’d planned to write about patience and faith today.  My plans, however, have been derailed. The good news is I already received and accepted an invitation to start work on Monday! The bad news is that I can… Read More »Waiting for the Right Fit
  • Stretching Yourself
    While job searching I learned that women and racialized groups are less likely to apply for positions unless they meet every single qualification. The employer (the Kids Help Phone) encouraged candidates to apply even if their past experience doesn’t perfectly align with the job description.  “You may be just the right candidate for this or… Read More »Stretching Yourself
  • It’s Not About You
    Have you ever been disliked or rejected for no reason? I have, and it hurts. Most recently, it’s Remy. He’s a golden palomino who lives at an equestrian facility less than five minutes from my place. I could brush, scratch and just be with him for hours. He tolerates my visits, but I don’t think… Read More »It’s Not About You
  • Wait and See 
    What are you waiting for? If you feel like you’ve been waiting forever, you’re not alone!  I waited for almost 15 years for my estranged sister to come back to me (Great Expectations). We reconnected because I kept the door open. I thought about her often, and sent occasional emails saying I’m available and will… Read More »Wait and See 
  • How to Be Brave
    Who is the most courageous person you know? Maybe a family member is serving overseas, or a friend is choosing a new path in midlife. Perhaps your neighbor is a brain surgeon, an inner city teacher, or a solo world traveler. Big lives demand courage and faith! But so do the smallest, simplest requests for… Read More »How to Be Brave
  • Going With Your Gut
    Has your gut ever urged you to do something—quit the job, eat more veggies, move overseas—but you were consumed by fear, self-doubt or other people’s opinions? Your gut instincts are clear and immediate. You were born with them, but they may be overshadowed or even buried by your thoughts, past experiences and future predictions. Me,… Read More »Going With Your Gut
  • Before You’re Ready
    Today I am signing the final paperwork on my new condo! And as much as I’d love to share more, right now I have too much boring “adulting” to do. Here’s a quote that sums up my whirlwind of a week: “Eventually the page will turn, even before you are ready. You will be offered… Read More »Before You’re Ready
  • No Choice But Courage
    Sometimes we’re forced to face things that are dangerous, painful and scary. All we can do is take a deep breath, square our shoulders, and lean in. Violet—my bike—and I made it through our scariest storm yet. She lives on the back of Ruby, my van. Violet and Ruby are all I have – I’m… Read More »No Choice But Courage
  • When Your Life Changes
    You’ve heard of stress, but what about “eustress”? That’s the stress that comes with positive changes in your life—changes you may have hoped for and even initiated. I was reminded of this yesterday during my volunteer orientation at the Lethbridge Therapeutic Riding Association. As lovely as the horses, riders, instructors and stables are, I miss… Read More »When Your Life Changes
  • Great Expectations
    When I visited the hematologist for my blood test results last week (What Scares You Most?) I didn’t expect to hear I had cancer. And guess what? I don’t have cancer! But it doesn’t surprise me because I just didn’t feel cancer in my body. Admittedly, I don’t know what cancer feels like…but I just had a… Read More »Great Expectations
  • Blindsided by Love
    Don’t give up on love. Love has the surprising ability to show up in unexpected times and places. It shines in the most unexpected sizes, shapes and forms—if we have the eyes to see. Take last week, for example. I had my last two visits with Milo, the horse who stole my heart. Our last riding… Read More »Blindsided by Love
  • What You’ll Never Lose
    What is the hardest goodbye you’ve ever said?  Maybe you lost a person, pet, or place. Maybe you let go of a dream or hope. Or perhaps you released a belief you grew up with—Santa Claus, talking cats, or even religious convictions you dared not question. Some goodbyes are harder to say than others. Some… Read More »What You’ll Never Lose
  • Necessary Endings
    Today is the last day of the therapeutic riding session I’ve been volunteering at. Unbelievably, three months have passed!  I wrote Surprised by Love when I first met the horses and riders, and now we’re saying good-bye.  It’s not a happy ending, but it is necessary. “Getting to the next level always requires ending something, leaving it… Read More »Necessary Endings
  • Finding Your Rhythm 
    Have you noticed that all stages of life—whether eagerly chosen or shockingly unexpected—have their own rhythm?  Every season has its own beat and tempo, its own sound and feel. If we want to live happily in that season, we need to find its rhythm.  I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. I’m learning the… Read More »Finding Your Rhythm 
  • You’re Already There
    No matter where you are—on the road, resting on a beach (even if it’s only in your dreams!) or getting ready for something new—consider this:  You’re exactly where you’re meant to be. I’ve been thinking about this a lot in the last few weeks. I’m living in my camper van, volunteering with horses, finding my… Read More »You’re Already There
  • When You Fall Down
    At the stables last week, I told a fellow volunteer that I couldn’t decide if I should bring my bike on the road this summer. I have osteoporosis and arthritis; falling down could result in a serious fracture. “If I’m gonna break something, I’d rather do it falling off a horse,” I said. “I don’t… Read More »When You Fall Down
  • Sticking Your Neck Out
    A fellow emailed me last week and asked how to build confidence as a writer. He’d read 10 Things You Need to Know About Writing for Reader’s Digest and wants to write for that magazine, but feels overwhelmed with information.  I shared a few ideas in The First Step to Gaining Confidence as a New Freelance Writer. Of all… Read More »Sticking Your Neck Out
  • What Scares You Most?
    A few months ago, I found a lump that required medical attention. I’ve also had abnormal blood test results and other health issues for several years.  Yesterday I finally had my appointment with a hematologist (blood disorders doctor) in Vancouver. She sent me for more extensive blood tests; in about six weeks I’ll know if I… Read More »What Scares You Most?
  • Feeling Your Way to Happiness
    “Are you happy?” asked my grade 8 Social Studies teacher—Mr Merrit—every week. Every week I’d pause, check with my soul, and tell him the truth. Yes. I was happy despite nightly stomachaches and daily fears. I’d recently left my schizophrenic mother, moved to a foster home, and was constantly worried my mom would show up… Read More »Feeling Your Way to Happiness
  • Feel Like a Stranger in a Strange Land?
    Didn’t it seem easier to make friends when we were young? We only had to say “Wanna play?” and voila! We were set for the afternoon, the summer, or even the whole school year. Childhood friendships and kindred spirits were on my mind when I made Are You a Stranger in a Strange Land? How to… Read More »Feel Like a Stranger in a Strange Land?
  • When Fear Rises
    Do you get scared sometimes? I do. All the time! I got scared yesterday. It was my first time in a paddock with loose horses. I want to learn how to communicate with them nonverbally, without tools—no reins, crops, leads or harnesses. Being in a paddock with a herd is a lot different than saddling… Read More »When Fear Rises
  • A New Reason to Keep Going
    I love making videos and sending weekly emails, but it’s always a struggle. I have to push myself over a wall of resistance every single time. Plus, I never know how people will respond to my offering (which is why I love hearing from you – even if you disagree with me! 🙂 ). Half… Read More »A New Reason to Keep Going
  • Releasing Your Grip
    Letting go of whatever we’re holding onto—whether it’s a rope, a relationship, or a road we regret taking—is easier when we know we’re being taken care of.
  • Surprised by Love
    No matter what you’re going through, remember that love and happiness is within reach. The dark, empty, fearful moments are fleeting shadows. They temporarily conceal the light — but the light is always there, waiting.  In Finding Love After Dementia, Divorce, or Death: 3 Unexpected Ways to Heal a Broken Heart, I share different ways to love… Read More »Surprised by Love
  • How We Met
    To celebrate my birthday last week I tried to find my most natural, free, uninhibited self in my video She Blossoms After 50: Birthday Celebration Ideas for the Best Half of Your Life. The bad news is that I failed. As usual, I constantly overanalyzed my word choices, judged my tips, and worried what people would… Read More »How We Met
  • While You’re Waiting
    Chances are you’re waiting for something. A broken heart or bone to heal? Spring or summer to blossom? Easter or Jesus to come? Positive or negative test results? A loan, job, or application to be processed? I’m waiting for Volunteer Training next week; I’m helping at a therapeutic riding camp for people with disabilities for… Read More »While You’re Waiting
  • Do You Feel Off Track?
    This morning while clearing out the old photos on my phone, I found a picture of a page with one paragraph called “A Gentle Reminder.” I don’t know the book’s title, author or even the page number but I want to share it with you.  I hope it puts a little spring in your step… Read More »Do You Feel Off Track?
  • Standing Your Ground With People You Love
    Greetings from sunny Seaside, California! It was chilly and rainy this morning, but even so I felt the warmth of the name. Seaside is so bright and cheerful, isn’t it? Some words are heartwarming no matter what’s happening inside or outside. Yesterday was even better. I stumbled across the most gorgeous sandy beach in Marina while… Read More »Standing Your Ground With People You Love
  • It Won’t Always Hurt This Much
    Echoing in my mind when I woke up this morning was, “It won’t always feel so bad.”  Since the last thing I asked before I fell asleep last night was, “What should I share with my friends tomorrow?” I immediately knew my message is for you.  What hurts you today? Maybe it’s a physical health… Read More »It Won’t Always Hurt This Much
  • How to Bounce Back
    The best part of yesterday was watching the Arabian Hunter Pleasure 60+ Riders event. It was so inspirational to see people over 60 riding horses, competing, and winning blue ribbons on Arabian horses! The worst part was…
  • When Your Body Betrays You
    Being surprised or even shocked by the sounds and sights of your body is weird when you’re alone—and it’s mortifying when you’re in public! I had a doctor’s appointment yesterday; her office is a 20 minute walk from my place. After our appointment—during which she poked and prodded my abdominal area—I felt the slight need… Read More »When Your Body Betrays You
  • The Direct Path to Happiness
    Volunteering at the Quarter Horse Show in Queen Creek, Arizona was amazing—my job was to straighten the logs if a horse and rider knocked them askew while competing in the maze (I’m still working on my Giddy Up! video). It was my first taste of the horsey life at a big bustling Horse and Equestrian… Read More »The Direct Path to Happiness
  • How to Have No Regrets
    My favorite quote in 50 is the Perfect Time to Start Something New: 7 Tips for a Mid-Life Career Change (my latest video) is from Hugh Prather’s There is a Place Where You Are Not Alone: “There is simply no way of knowing what course of action would truly be in your best interests,” he… Read More »How to Have No Regrets
  • Are You at a Crossroads in Life?
    A few tips for finding your place in the world (or at least taking the next step) when you’re at a crossroads in your life.
  • When You Don’t Fit In
    Ruby and I are at a rest stop in the desert near Dome Rock, Arizona. The sun is feels like it’ll set this little camper van on fire soon; we’ll go up in smoke if we don’t hightail it outta here! I couldn’t email you on Wednesday as usual because I got lost in the… Read More »When You Don’t Fit In
  • Loving What Is
    Palm Springs was never on my list of places to visit. Yet not only am I here, I love its beauty and diversity! Weaving between the palm trees and noisy birds are religious Hasidic Jews, wealthy retired socialites, homeless people with who freely express themselves, and more street cleaners, groundskeepers, and security guards than I’ve… Read More »Loving What Is
  • A Lump in the Road
    Last week when I wrote What’s Worse Than Being Alone?, health issues weren’t on my mind. It’s different this week. I’ve been dealing with hip pain for six months—sometimes it hurts so bad I can barely walk up a few stairs. I’ve also had several abnormal blood test results, which is why I left New… Read More »A Lump in the Road
  • What’s Worse Than Being Alone?
    A million things are worse than being alone! I’ve spent the last five Christmas holidays by myself. It’s much, much worse to be in a relationship—or surrounded by family and friends—and feel lonelier and sadder than when you’re by yourself. The Christmas season in particular often brings feelings of loss, sadness and nostalgia for the… Read More »What’s Worse Than Being Alone?
  • The Heart Has Reasons
    Have you ever felt compelled to do something, but not known why? You couldn’t understand it, much less explain it. That’s how I felt about getting Ruby. I’ve never owned or even driven in a camper van, yet I knew I had to have her. It’s also how I felt last week about contacting Susan—a… Read More »The Heart Has Reasons
  • Have You Met Your Worst Enemy?
    When I lived in Africa I shared a house with three American teachers. One of them—Susan—was popular, kind, authentic, fun and interesting. She worked as a special needs teacher, so she got to work one-on-one with kids. Naturally, she soon started dating the kindest, smartest, handsomest bachelor at our school (he was a Canadian guidance counselor.… Read More »Have You Met Your Worst Enemy?
  • Uprooted on the Road
    Last week in When Life Shuts You Down I said I hoped take Ruby (my camper van) down to the Sedona, Arizona area for a couple of months.  I’m not quite there yet, but I’m closer than ever! Yesterday—day two of my Road Trip to Sedona & Beyond—I was paying for gas at Love’s Truck… Read More »Uprooted on the Road
  • When Life Shuts You Down
    Is life throwing health problems at you? You might be interested in 4 Reasons Nice Girls Are Prone to Chronic Illness (Being Good is Bad for Your Body!). Not only do I have health issues, my life has a mind of her own. I’m just following along like a lost puppy. I’d planned to spend… Read More »When Life Shuts You Down
  • Your Body Can’t Lie
    A few winters ago, I really really didn’t want to go to Edmonton and spend Christmas with my husband’s family. The only problem was that I couldn’t say no.
  • Who Do They Say You Are?
    “Who do you say I am?” a wise man once asked. I love the simplicity and authenticity of this question. I love how open-minded and open-hearted the man was, how genuinely curious. I love how interested he was in people and their perspectives, how detached he was from their stories.  He—Jesus Christ—was so centered and… Read More »Who Do They Say You Are?
  • When Your Worst Nightmare Comes True
    The other night a huge white moose chased me through three dreams. In the third dream I was running on a snowbank along a partially frozen river. I could hear the buck breathing and gaining on me; the riverbank was getting steeper and more treacherous. I couldn’t keep running. I stopped, took a deep breath,… Read More »When Your Worst Nightmare Comes True
  • Too Embarrassed to Tell the Truth
    Have you ever made a huge decision, uprooted your and other people’s lives, decided to go back, and felt too embarrassed to tell anyone? That’s what happened to me last week, and it’s why I didn’t email. Plus I was too busy cleaning the apartment I rented in Fredericton, getting blood tests, and preparing to… Read More »Too Embarrassed to Tell the Truth
  • How to Not Suffer
    Yesterday I got a Covid booster shot in one arm and a flu shot in the other. Double whammy! And boy, am I feeling it now. Sore arms, achy body, and all-round blah-ness. I’m resting, eating comfort foods, reading and listening to my favorite conversations with Byron Katie. She created The Work, which helps people… Read More »How to Not Suffer
  • Adjusting to Life Alone After Years of Marriage
    Do you have a  “happy place”? Perhaps you love sitting on a beach or standing at the top of a mountain. Maybe you spend hours in your garden or garage, or lose yourself in the pages of a good book. Perhaps you’re a people person—you’re happiest at the dinner table surrounded by family, friends and… Read More »Adjusting to Life Alone After Years of Marriage
  • Rehoming Yourself After a Breakup
    “Eventually the page will turn, even before you are ready. You will be offered a new part to play. You may not have practiced for this part, but you must—with bravery and grace—jump in anyway.” – from a poem called “To Save Yourself” by Lisa Shatzk, author of A Thousand Ways to Kiss the Earth. When… Read More »Rehoming Yourself After a Breakup
  • Finding a New Place to Live
    Leaving home can be the most exciting thing you do, or the most painful. Often it’s both at once! The thing I always forget about leaving home—or being forced to move—is that other homes exist. In fact, there are literally homes all over the world. Some homes are currently occupied, but have room for another… Read More »Finding a New Place to Live
  • How to Do Hard Things
    A couple weeks ago in We Can Do Hard Things I said uprooting your life is really hard.  What I didn’t say was how to make it easier. Why? Because I hadn’t figured it out yet. I’d recently decided to separate from my husband and was planning to another long road trip. I was distracted.… Read More »How to Do Hard Things
  • We Can Do Hard Things
    Uprooting your life is really hard.  Anais Nin didn’t mention that when she said, “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” She also neglected to say you’re not taking one single risk when you decide you can’t remain bound… Read More »We Can Do Hard Things
  • Something You Can Trust
    This morning a dear friend reminded me how vast, wild and unpredictable Mother Nature is. She’s never just one thing: good or bad, healthy or unhealthy, nurturing or depleting. She’s one of those “both/and” dichotomies.  Mother Nature is both healing and damaging, life-giving and destructive—sometimes at the same time! For example, a wildfire releases valuable… Read More »Something You Can Trust
  • The Obstacles in Your Way
    In Arabian Nights there’s a story about a farmer. His plow catches on something in the dirt. Despite much struggle he can’t dislodge it. He finally stops, digs in the ground and finds that his plow is caught on a metal ring attached to a door. When he opens the door he discovers a passageway… Read More »The Obstacles in Your Way
  • Your Healing Process
    This morning a red robin slammed into the glass surrounding my deck and landed flat on her back. Her tail twitched, her wings fluttered and her legs scrambled helplessly in the air. She couldn’t get up. I watched as her movements became slower and slower…and finally she stopped moving. A beautiful red-breasted robin lying flat… Read More »Your Healing Process
  • 4 Problems With Positive Thinking
    If you’ve ever had the post-vacation blues, you know that getting back into the daily routine—especially if you’re not ready to go home—can be rocky. I’m back in Vancouver after a four month road trip across Canada. It’s great to see everyone again, but I’m happiest in Ruby, my camper van. Already I’m planning the… Read More »4 Problems With Positive Thinking
  • Uprooted 🌱 She Blossoms
    Last week in When Your Plans Fall Apart I shared what happened when my Al Capone tour through the Tunnels of Moose Jaw was delayed. The most significant part (besides saving a young woman’s life!) was meeting a popular travel YouTuber called Alina Mcleod.  When Alina saw my YouTube channel, she called me a “van… Read More »Uprooted 🌱 She Blossoms
  • When Your Plans Fall Apart
    Yesterday I was booked for the Al Capone—Scarface—Tour through the Tunnels of Moose Jaw. Capone ran a bootlegging operation with brassy sassy Fanny, his business partner, in Moose Jaw during Prohibition. He exported moonshine to Chicago in the 20s. I was set for the 3 pm tour, but they bumped me to 3:30 because of… Read More »When Your Plans Fall Apart
  • When Life Gets Weird
    A couple months ago when I was here in Sault St. Marie, Ontario, I sent you 3 Ways to Make Life Easier.  It was early May and the weather was still chilly. The roads were quiet, everyone at school and work. I was on my way to St John’s, Newfoundland. I had a destination and a purpose,… Read More »When Life Gets Weird
  • The Cost of Following Your Dreams
    Yesterday someone asked me a simple question that made me say something I’ve never admitted out loud.  “I’m especially interested in the spots you stay overnight while travelling across Canada,” she said. “How well do you sleep on the road?” “I’ve stayed in over 120 different places,” I responded. “Most of the time I sleep… Read More »The Cost of Following Your Dreams
  • Are You Spinning Your Wheels?
    Seven ways to overcome “analysis paralysis” and make a decision you’ll never regret.
  • When Your Sister Cuts You Out of Her Life
    I finally understand what Dr Seuss meant when he said: “Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.”  First, thought, I had to cry. I spent four days with the most amazing woman, a friend of a friend. Her name is Maggie; she’s generous, enthusiastic, honest and easy to be with. She shares whatever… Read More »When Your Sister Cuts You Out of Her Life
  • A Risk Worth Taking
    I’m in Joe Batt’s Arm on Fogo Island in Newfoundland—and it’s not just another world. It’s like I landed on the moon. Rocky coves, crashing waves, fishing boats, lobster traps, colourful cottages perched on stilts along the coast. The landscape is stark and barren, haunting and gorgeous. Hardly any trees or soil, earth or dirt. Just giant… Read More »A Risk Worth Taking
  • Home is Where the Art Is
    This artist’s home features stained glass windows, staircases made from original church pews, mosaics created by Italian artists and a church bell.
  • When You’ve Lost Your Way
    Are you struggling to find – or rediscover – the purpose of your life? Sometimes it happens after you lose someone you love, your kids leave home, or a big work or house project ends. Or it can be the result of years of routine, lack of stimulation, reliving the same day over and over (Groundhog… Read More »When You’ve Lost Your Way
  • What is Your Biggest Regret?
    You know how some kids are a perfect blend of the best qualities of their parents? New Brunswick is one of those beautiful children. This province combines the flatness of the Canadian prairies (you can see eternity!) and the wildness of the Pacific Northwest (rugged coastlines, wild waves, hidden coves and beaches). Loud squawky birds—a… Read More »What is Your Biggest Regret?
  • When Your Dreams Come True
    New Brunswick—the first province of the Maritimes—has a flat rugged coast, which offers an unhindered view of the gulfs, rivers and ocean. Driving and parking my camper van is easy because there’s so much space and so few people. And New Brunswick is the only Canadian province with two official languages; the blend of Quebecois… Read More »When Your Dreams Come True
  • One Thing You Can Count On
    Just a quick note—the library is closing soon and I’m running behind because I’ve spent tons of time doing something I “knew” wasn’t my thing. I thought I wouldn’t enjoy it, and that it’d be a complete waste of time. But not only did it enchant me, I think it might be my thing! I… Read More »One Thing You Can Count On
  • 3 Ways to Make Your Life Easier
    Last week while filming No-Cook Camper Van Meals for Road Trips (The Joy of Not Cooking!), and I did two things that scared the bloopers out of me.  Worse, I made my life much, much harder than it needed to be. What scared me: First, I went to the Thunder Bay Farmer’s Market and asked some… Read More »3 Ways to Make Your Life Easier
  • Night-Time Camper Van Break-In
    Waking up to a man inside my camper van in the middle of the night wasn’t just terrifying, it was almost unbelievable! I once woke up to a nighttime intruder in my bedroom (How I Survived a Home Invasion & Assault) — but I didn’t think it would ever happen again. In Night-Time Camper Van… Read More »Night-Time Camper Van Break-In
  • Life After Infertility
    In When the Road Gets Rocky, I described the difficulties of my cross-Canada trip. The good news is that I took my own advice. My head cold is almost gone and I feel much better.  And I’m snowed in! I’d decided to spend a few extra days in Saskatoon because of the winter snowstorms further… Read More »Life After Infertility
  • When the Road Gets Rocky
    It’s been a rough first week on the road. I’d planned to take it easy at first because I’ve been running on adrenalin for the past month. Work, taxes, road trip prep, emotional ups and downs, and of course my friend Doreen’s celebration of life. I knew I should give myself some down time the first… Read More »When the Road Gets Rocky
  • My First Celebration of Life
    Day 3 of my cross-Canada road trip! Last week in Crossing the Spiritual Desert, I thought I’d email you from Medicine Hat, Alberta. I was wrong. I’m in Spruce Grove, Alberta.  I also thought I’d be emailing you about my camper van trip through the Canadian Rockies, over the Coquihalla Mountain, and into a winter… Read More »My First Celebration of Life
  • Crossing the Spiritual Desert
    The last time you waited for something, did it feel like forever? You trudged through a hard, lonely, dry season of long days and even longer nights. And when the day finally arrived, you thought you were seeing a mirage. That’s me. I’ve been hoping to visit the Maritimes for a decade, and actively planning… Read More »Crossing the Spiritual Desert
  • Take Yourself Off the Hook
    I’m writing as I ride the ferry from Nanaimo (on Vancouver Island, BC) back to Vancouver. I had to bring Ruby “home” to the RV dealership from whence she came. We needed a couple of repairs before hitting the road for our cross-Canada trip. Looking out the window I see ocean liners, seagulls, islands covered… Read More »Take Yourself Off the Hook
  • Who Would You Be? 
    I didn’t know I’d feel so comfortable making YouTube videos until I actually started making them. I was a reluctant beginner, in fact. My literary agent said I had the personality for it, and encouraged me to give it a try. I thought she just wanted to sell more books so I ignored her. But… Read More »Who Would You Be? 
  • How Far You’ve Come!
    Crossing the border into Canada after my Death Valley California road trip was a breeze. A Walgreen’s in Oregon gave me a free drive-through PCR test; it was faster than picking up a burger and fries. Two days later they emailed and said, “Congratulations! You don’t have covid!” I sailed through the Canadian border, and… Read More »How Far You’ve Come!
  • If Only Healing Was This Easy
    I’m traveling through Nevada—and, thankfully, my brain wasn’t damaged when I slipped and fell last week on an icy ramp on the Oregon Coast.  Last week in When Life Isn’t Safe or Easy I described how I fell while filming the sea lions in Astoria. I hit my head on the steel plank so hard, I thought… Read More »If Only Healing Was This Easy
  • When Life Doesn’t Feel Safe
    “I hope your trip is safe and easy,” was one of the last things my husband said as I was leaving for my road trip to Death Valley, California. And it was one of the first things to pop into my mind yesterday, right after I slipped and banged my head on an icy wharf in… Read More »When Life Doesn’t Feel Safe
  • How Your Bad Luck Affects Us
    Last week in When Asking for Help Backfires, I described what happened when I asked for help facing my fears about driving solo to Death Valley, California. I received a wave of emails—your encouragement and tips mean so much! Thank you. But I didn’t mention one of the main causes of my anxiety: I survived an attempted… Read More »How Your Bad Luck Affects Us
  • When Asking for Help Backfires
    An exciting development! And a speed bump. I’m driving to the Death Valley National Park in California before my Big Trip across Canada in April. I’ll be meeting up with about 15 other Pleasure-Way Tofino camper van owners; a gal from Jasper, Alberta is organizing the meet up. It’s exciting, but I’m nervous. I haven’t left Canada since… Read More »When Asking for Help Backfires
  • The Obstacles to Freedom
    Last week when I asked you to tell me what new path you’re walking or goal you’re pursuing (What Do You Want? Curiosity Blossoms), I received this email from Angie:  “I moved out of my home country to pursue my studies abroad. And even if I live with my aunt and cousins (not alone or with strangers),… Read More »The Obstacles to Freedom
  • What Do You Want?
    I want more emails like Rinelma’s. This plucky She Blossoms reader said, “I decided to go back to school at the age of 60! (Blush). I’m studying nursing, and I’m loving it so far.”  When I asked her if I could share this with you—a “bouquet” 💐 to inspire and encourage you—she said, “Of course! And… Read More »What Do You Want?
  • Are You Going the Wrong Way?
    “No matter how long we have traveled down the wrong road, we can always turn around.” Isn’t that beautiful? I love it. A reader called Danielle emailed me that inspiring quote. It sums up my life! Another reader asked for encouragement on faith and spirituality. I’ll share fresh ideas as the weeks unfold; below, you’ll find one of… Read More »Are You Going the Wrong Way?
  • How Synesthesia Affects Writing: Joanne Harris, Author of Chocolat
    Bestselling author Joanne Harris (Chocolat, The Strawberry Thief and other books) is synaesthetic, which means she smells colours. Here’s what her red sofa cushion smells like (yum!) and how synesthesia affects her writing process. “Every book I write has a different scent,” says Joanne Harris, author of Chocolat and, more recently, A Narrow Door. This… Read More »How Synesthesia Affects Writing: Joanne Harris, Author of Chocolat
  • How I Started Earning a Full-Time Living as a Blogger
    I’ve been making a full-time living from my “She Blossoms” blogs since 2008 – which I myself find impossible to believe! I’ve long expected the internet to implode and my work to go up in smoke, but it hasn’t happened yet. My blogs have crashed and been hacked, but the world wide web has been… Read More »How I Started Earning a Full-Time Living as a Blogger
  • 3 Marketing Mistakes I Made With My First Traditionally Published Book
    A Multnomah editor said a women’s self-help book about grief is a hard sell to the publishing team, and difficult to sell in the marketplace. If I wanted my book to be a bestseller, I’d have to become passionate about recovery.
  • How Colors Affect Your Mind, Mood and Mental Health
    Can colors—not coloring with crayons in a book, but actual color therapy—make you happy? Before you jump to yay or nay, take a look at this colorful research. Here’s how color psychology affects your mind, mood and mental health. In Almost Sage – Book Blurb & Inspiration for Writing you’ll see I was inspired to… Read More »How Colors Affect Your Mind, Mood and Mental Health
  • Almost Sage – Book Blurb & Inspiration for Writing
    Almost Sage is a women’s novel about a 50 year old writer misdiagnosed with schizophrenia as a child. When she discovers the real reason she sees voices, tastes words and feels sounds on her skin, her life doesn’t just get complicated. It unravels. This novel, complete at 80,000 words, is stand-alone with series potential. Book… Read More »Almost Sage – Book Blurb & Inspiration for Writing
  • Synesthesia in Detective Fiction Books and Literature (Synaesthesia)
    You say synesthesia, I say synaesthesia. Actually, the words sound the same even though the British English version has an extra vowel. In Canada—where I live—we use British English. When I blog about synesthesia, though, I use British and American English interchangeably. I found a delightful chapter in The Oxford Handbook of Synesthesia called “Synesthesia… Read More »Synesthesia in Detective Fiction Books and Literature (Synaesthesia)
  • Laurie’s Books: Growing Forward and Letting Go
    My first traditionally published book is called Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back and offers a fresh, practical perspective on moving through loss. In it, I share stories of contemporary and biblical women who transcended extraordinary pain and grief. I weave in my own experiences of growing up with a single schizophrenic mother, living in… Read More »Laurie’s Books: Growing Forward and Letting Go
  • 3 Weird Things About Getting Up at 3 a.m. to Write
    Is it weird to write while walking on a treadmill before the sun rises? It doesn’t feel weird to get up at 3 a.m. to write my novel (Almost Sage), but it sounds weird – even to me – when I talk about it. Luckily, writers are weird. Actually – I take that back! People… Read More »3 Weird Things About Getting Up at 3 a.m. to Write
  • Laurie Pawlik ~ An Adventurous Writer in Canada
    Laurie Pawlik, MSW, is a writer with 25 years of writing, teaching, and social work experience. Her degrees are in Psychology, Education, and Social Work. She wrote Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back, started the “Midlife Blossoms” and “She Blossoms” blogs and YouTube channel, and has been published in magazines such as Woman’s Day,… Read More »Laurie Pawlik ~ An Adventurous Writer in Canada
  • Query Letter for a Magazine Article on “Practicing Synesthesia” (Sample for Writers)
    One of the perks of being an author is writing for magazines, newspapers, and other publications. Getting anything published is a privilege; writing about your own subject matter is a bonus! My novel – Almost Sage – is about a woman who sees voices, tastes words, and feels sounds on her skin. As such, I’d… Read More »Query Letter for a Magazine Article on “Practicing Synesthesia” (Sample for Writers)


  • How Do You Let Go of the Past?

    You may be gripped by the past now, but you won’t always feel this bad. Your pain, regret, shock and grief will fade. You’ll never forget the love you had, but you will move forward with peace, hope, and happiness.

    Letting Go of Someone You Love is the ebook I wrote to help women loosen unhealthy attachments. No matter how tightly you’re holding on to the way things were, you can put down your burden and find happiness today.

    How to Let Go of Someone You Love

    This is a 82 page pdf file that can be read on all devices. Right after after you order it, you’ll find it in your email.

    If you don’t find it helpful, I will refund your money. You’ll get my email address when you order your copy; you can contact me anytime.

    You’ll be encouraged and uplifted by:

    1. Inspiring success stories: “Letting Go of Someone You Love” includes personal stories of growth and transformation. You’ll see that you are not alone, and feel encouraged to stay positive and present as you rebuild your life.
    2. Healing exercises: The practical strategies include therapeutic exercises designed to heal your heart and foster self-awareness and self-compassion. You’ll find empowerment and motivation to break free from the emotional chains of the past.
    3. Knowledgeable guidance: Written by Laurie Pawlik – a social worker who has personal experience with breakups, separation and divorce – “Letting Go of Someone You Love” offers insights, tips and practical advice to help you navigate the emotional journey of rebuilding your life.


    About Laurie Pawlik

    My degrees are in Psychology, Education and Social Work. I’m the author of Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back, and the creator of the Uprooted 🌱 She Blossoms blogs, books and YouTube channel.

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    Laurie Pawlik

    As a health and wellness writer, I’ve contributed to magazines such as Reader’s Digest, Chatelaine, Spirituality & Health and More. My professional experiences and education helped me write this ebook. More powerful, however, were my personal experiences with love, loss, grief, and healing. I grew up in foster homes and know firsthand how painful it is to lose people you love.

    I know what it takes to heal a broken heart.

    Don’t let the pain of a past relationship define who you are and how you feel. Let go. Start reclaiming your life – and your self – today.

    Letting Go of Someone You Love

    This is a 82 page pdf file that can be read on all devices. Right after after you order it, you’ll find it in your email.

    If you don’t find it helpful, I will refund your money. You’ll get my email address when you order your copy; you can contact me anytime.


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    Midlife Blossoms Newsletter

    Laurie Pawlik Kienlen she blossoms

    I’m Laurie, creator of Uprooted 🌱 She Blossoms on YouTube and author of Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back.
    About me.

  • About Laurie Pawlik

    Laurie Pawlik, MSW, is a writer with 25 years of writing, teaching, and social work experience. Her degrees are in Psychology, Education, and Social Work. She wrote Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back, started the “Midlife Blossoms” and “She Blossoms” blogs and YouTube channel, and has been published in magazines such as Woman’s Day, Reader’s Digest, Women’s Health, and More.

    Now that our formal introduction is over, here’s a peek into the juicier bits of my life…

    I lived in Kenya, Africa for three years. I taught Grade 8 Language Arts and High School Journalism at Rosslyn Academy, an American school for ex-pat students in Nairobi.

    My mother was born and raised in Saskatchewan, Canada. My father is Jewish, born and raised in Israel. I met him for the first time in Jerusalem when I was 29.

    I started volunteering with the Big Sisters/Big Brothers organization in 2012; my “Little” Sister was 11 when we were matched. I myself was a Little Sister in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan when I was 10.

    I didn’t get married until I was 35. Bruce and I met for the first time when I was an 18 year old waitress and he was a 21 year old bartender at Chi Chi’s Mexican Restaurant in Edmonton. We were friends for a 17 years before we married, and were married for 17 years.

    We struggled with infertility and couldn’t have children because of azoospermia (male infertility). We chose not to get in vitro fertilization (IVF), though we did try intrauterine insemination (IUI). The fertility treatments failed; we decided not to adopt or foster kids.

    I started my original “Quips and Tips” blogs in 2008 under The Adventurous Writer, which means I have a gazillion blog posts from a million years ago. They represented who I was then, not necessarily who I am today.

    I’ve written several “She Blossoms” books and ebooks, and have been earning a full-time living as a blogger and writer since 2008. My first and most popular ebook is Letting Go of Someone You Love.

    My undergraduate degrees are in Education and Psychology from the University of Alberta, in Edmonton. My Master of Social Work (MSW) is from the University of British Columbia (UBC) in Vancouver.

    I bought a 2021 Pleasure-Way Tofino camper van for my 50th birthday. For a couple of years I wandered, witnessed, and wrote. I also made videos!

    When I turned 50, I started my She Blossoms YouTube channel. Here’s one of my favorite and most popular videos:
    What NOT to Do When Giving Yourself a Pixie Haircut (I Accidentally Gave Myself a Buzz Cut)

    I made it before my first cross-Canada road trip – I thought a pixie cut would be easy to maintain on the road. It was my first time using clippers, and it turned out a lot different than I envisioned.

    My “She Blossoms” Blogs

    I created over a dozen blogs when I started my “Quips and Tips” in 2008. I dubbed myself The Adventurous Writer.

    Here are the websites that lasted – they’re untended, wild and overgrown, but they still carry my fingerprints and heartbeat. They’re also a great source of income!

    • How Love Blossoms (marriage, relationships, and healing from breakups, divorce, and other losses in love); and
    • Blossom Tips (life, work, family, career, and spirituality).

    And my really really old blogs:

    • She Blossoms – my original love and relationship articles.
    • Life Blossoms – my early articles about goals, life, family, and work.
    • Writing Blossoms – the first blog I started in 2008! Writing, blogging, getting published.
    • Health Blossoms – mostly articles about trying to get pregnant and dealing with childlessness.


    The Official Bio

    Laurie Pawlik, MSW, is the author of Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back (Bethany House, 2019). She has over 25 years of teaching, social work and writing experience, and has contributed to publications such as Reader’s Digest, Chatelaine, Spirituality & Health, Writer’s Digest and More. She created the “She Blossoms” family of blogs and ebooks (including her bestselling ebook called How to Let Go of Someone You Love), and has recently finished her first novel (Almost Sage).

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