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Maybe It Was Your Lucky Day

A reader emailed me the following question in response to last week’s email What Do You Think?

“Can you discuss healing from a broken engagement? While divorce sucks, at least they got to experience a wedding.”

Coping with a broken engagement is very painful, and I’ll offer tips for coping in a blog post soon. In the meantime, if you have advice or experience to share, please comment on Midlife Breakups: How to Move On Even If It Feels Impossible.

But what if it was your lucky day?

When my then-husband and I discovered we couldn’t have kids, I wondered if we were being spared from something. What if our child had a mental illness such as schizophrenia? My mom and her twin sister both struggled with mental health problems. Or what if our kid grew up to be violent toward others?

I always wondered if we were lucky not to have children, and we didn’t realize it. We were too determined and focused on what we wanted and what we thought life should be like.

All the things we can’t see

And maybe it’s not all about us. For instance, I was disappointed and anxious last month when I didn’t get the jobs I applied for. But what if the people who were hired were more qualified and suitable—and what if they and their families were relieved, overjoyed and grateful to get what they needed?

It’s possible that our biggest disappointments and heartbreaks were fortunate for us and others. Maybe everyone was being protected from something negative or even painful. 

It’s not too late to get lucky!

Whether you’re disappointed because of a work situation, sad because you haven’t been a bride or a parent, or heartbroken because you lost your soulmate, remember that anything could happen. 

Life is unpredictable and full of surprises. And it’s not always as it seems! If you’re still breathing and reading these words, then life isn’t finished with you yet. Surprises are still in store. Whether you call them good or bad—lucky or unlucky—is up to you. 

May you find peace, love and joy in all the nooks and crannies of your life. And may every day be lucky simply because you’re alive.

With love,



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