Last week when I asked you to tell me what new path you’re walking or goal you’re pursuing (What Do You Want? Curiosity Blossoms), I received this email from Angie:
“I moved out of my home country to pursue my studies abroad. And even if I live with my aunt and cousins (not alone or with strangers), as an introvert still working on self-confidence, it sure has been a challenge for me. But I’m pushing through it and slowly discovering all the responsibilities that come with being an adult.”
Magnificent! A big She Blossoms 💐 to Angie, who is pushing through the obstacles standing her way.
What are the obstacles in your way?
I’m planning my cross-Canada road trip in April. I’m going slow, writing and making videos on the way, so it’ll take at least three months. My biggest obstacle is my little dog, Tiffy.
Tiffy is 12 years old and needs to go potty every three hours. She can’t be left alone. I feel guilty about leaving her with my husband. He works full-time, and can’t stay home to let Tiffy out.
My husband says it’s fine, he’ll solve the problem by hiring a dog walker or figuring it out some other way. A friend suggested an indoor pee-pee pad so Tiffy can go in an out-of-the way place.
My sister even offered to dog sit her in Alberta while I’m away. I considered taking Tiffy to the Maritimes with me (but letting her out to go potty in the middle of the night is awkward when my camper van is parked in an unfamiliar place).
Despite all those solutions, I couldn’t seem to get over this obstacle. I was like a dog gnawing on a bone until my gums bled.
Are they really obstacles?
When I sat down and questioned my thoughts (“Tiffy is an obstacle to me leaving”), I realized I was wrong.
Tiffy isn’t the problem; her potty habits are figureoutable. It’s my thinking that’s the problem. My thoughts are holding me back. My thoughts are an obstacle to me leaving.
I also realized that the potty solution may benefit my husband, my sister, a dog walker or even Tiffy in ways I can’t imagine! Even if I can’t see how or why it’s better for Tiffy to be cared for in a way I can’t control, everyone is walking down the exact right path for them.
Have you experienced something similar?
You think the problem is out there—a difficult coworker, financial insecurity, an ongoing health issue, a difficult loss. Instead of releasing control and allowing the situation to be what it is, you wrestle with it. Instead of opening yourself up to the possible solutions, you obsessively worry and wrestle with it.
What if the obstacles you’re facing aren’t as problematic as you think? Maybe you’re closer to blossoming than you ever thought possible.
Even just considering the possibility is amazing! I hope you give it a think.
Can’t wait to see what the road brings.
She Blossoms on the Road
On 10 Road Trip “Themes” to Make a Cross-Country Drive Fun & Interesting (YouTube video featuring photos of my neighborhood in Deep Cove, Vancouver), I share ideas to spice up long distance drives.
My blog post 10 Themes and Ideas for Cross-Country Road Trips has more specific ideas. For instance, the Rocky Mountain Soap Company offers workshop tours in Canmore, Alberta. The Fromagerie du Pied-De-Vent is a cheese factory in Quebec. The Creative Imagery Night Photography Excursion is a night photography class near Hopewell Rocks Provincial Park in New Brunswick.
New on She Blossoms
How to Survive a Painful Pap Smear – Are you nervous, anxious, or even scared of getting a pap smear? My tips for surviving a painful pap will help you get through the test and maybe even make you feel glad and grateful that you “get” to visit the gynecologist! Seriously – a pap smear is an important, necessary health test for women.
4 Signs of Emotional Distance in a Relationship – Is your boyfriend or husband physically present, but emotionally distant? Here are four signs of emotionally distant love relationships, plus tips for bridging the gap between you and him.
Letting Go of a Relationship When It’s Over – Letting go is about loosening unhealthy attachments to the past. When you let go of someone you love, you heal your heart. You find peace. You start moving forward with hope, faith and joy.
Last Week’s Newsletter
What Do You Want? Curiosity Blossoms – I want more emails like Rinelma’s! This plucky She Blossoms reader said, “I decided to go back to school at the age of 60! (Blush). I’m studying nursing, and I’m loving it so far.”
Traveling Down the Wrong Road? Peace Blossoms – “No matter how long we have traveled down the wrong road, we can always turn around.” – Unknown.