What are you waiting for? If you feel like you’ve been waiting forever, you’re not alone!
I waited for almost 15 years for my estranged sister to come back to me (Great Expectations). We reconnected because I kept the door open. I thought about her often, and sent occasional emails saying I’m available and will always love her.
Waiting was hard. It was also healing. I faced my pain and worked though guilt, shame and grief.
My sister and I now talk regularly, and we often reflect on her favourite saying.
“Wait and see,” she tells me when I wonder if I’ll get one of the jobs I applied for.
“Wait and see,” I tell her when she wonders if she’ll like her new property owners.
In When Your Sister Cuts You Out of Her Life: Coping With Family Estrangement I share how I coped when my sister said she didn’t want to talk to me ever again. My tips apply to all relationships within families, even though some family estrangements are harder to cope with than others.
Waiting with wonder
I didn’t have to wait long to find my new condo, and I’m grateful! My Fair Lady and I are perfect for each other (and I’ve been warmly embraced by her sweetheart Russell—a huge poplar tree in our backyard that rustles and sings when the wind blows).
Now, however, I’m waiting for work. I’ve supported myself as a freelance writer and blogger for almost 20 years, but it’s time for a change.
The problem is I don’t know what that change is.
I remind myself of traveling in my camper van Ruby. What’s around the next corner? Wait and see! Whatever it is will be interesting, unique, and maybe even marvelous.
Whatever you’re waiting for, you are not alone. Most of us are waiting for something, whether it’s a decision from a poetry magazine or a court judge, a job offer or health test results.
While you wait, pretend you’re on the road. Know that whatever lies ahead will be good and bad, beautiful and bittersweet, high and low, light and dark.
It’ll be worth waiting for. And if it’s disappointing or even devastating, remember that just to be alive is a grand thing.