Last week in When Asking for Help Backfires, I described what happened when I asked for help facing my fears about driving solo to Death Valley, California. I received a wave of emails—your encouragement and tips mean so much! Thank you.
But I didn’t mention one of the main causes of my anxiety: I survived an attempted rape during a home invasion when I was 17. Below, I share links to my experience.
First, though, I have to tell you a story I can’t stop thinking about. I read it in Prem Rawat’s book Hear Yourself: How to Find Peace in a Noisy World.
Her flat tire answered his prayers
One day a young woman was cycling to an important job interview when her bike ran over a sharp rock and got a puncture.
“This is terrible,” she thought. “Unless I can fix this tire, I’m not going to get the job.”
She started to pray for a solution.
Around the next corner, a young man was sitting outside his bicycle repair shop.
“This is terrible,” he thought. “Unless I get a customer today, I’m going to lose my business.”
And he began to pray for a solution.
Your misfortune is an answer to someone’s prayer
“You see, one person’s misfortune can answer another person’s prayer,” writes Prem Rawat in Hear Yourself: How to Find Peace in a Noisy World. “But the deeper and more powerful form of prayer is when we simply give thanks for what is, not what might be.”
Giving thanks isn’t just an expression of the peace and joy inside of us. Gratitude nurtures and feeds those feelings, making them bigger and stronger. Gratitude grows peace, joy and love.
My survival story
In How I Survived an Attempted Rape During a Home Invasion I describe what happened when I was 17 years old. I was living alone in Edmonton, Alberta—and that was the last time I lived alone for over 10 years.
“I used to think I was safe at home,” I write in How I Dealt With an Intruder in My Bedroom in the Middle of the Night (blog post). “Now I know there isn’t any one single safe place. Some places seem safer – or more dangerous – than others, but one never knows for sure.”
Sometimes I need to remind myself not to live in fear or anxiety. Most of the time I live in abundance, freedom and joy. When I falter, I find it helpful to journal and write articles such as Overcoming Fear of a Solo Road Trip in the United States.
Gratitude feeds my joy, faith and peace—especially now that I realize my misfortune might somehow answer someone else’s prayer. We’re all in this together 😊